Try Again Tiger!
"I hate when this happens to me, especially at this time in the morning." she said.
She turned around sighing, muttering that the machine was out of order. I was next in line, waiting to buy my train ticket for the imminent commuter train.
Bemused, I replied;
"Let me try and see what happens." I had my reasons for stepping in like that. I was curious; I wanted my tickets; I was delivering a workshop in Edinburgh and could hear the train approaching! This freelancer had to be somewhere! I was focussed.
A few touch screens later, I had my tickets.
I gave her a surprised shrug and, wishing her good luck, I wandered off to catch my train. I hope she got her tickets in the end!
This happened yesterday. I couldn't have made it up! I recounted this tale to my client today, and she replied that that 'always' happens to her too. That machines know it's her and they decide to stop working!
In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) I learnt about modelling behaviours - to find out, using particular open and 'Clean' questions (for another blog). We seek to model behaviours where people excel in a particular area. To generate the internal process that they go through to be brilliant at something. Generate the sequence of internal events which are often beyond the person's conscious awareness. We can then 'try this on' for ourselves and become as excellent, if not more excellent. Anything goes.
Because when you ask someone that's really good at something how they do what they do, they'll probably just say that they just do it! Yet we all have processes and patterns of behaviours that we follow, time and time again.
We all have the capacity for excellence in all that we do. You can choose to believe this too - you can re-programme your map of your reality.
This is underpinned by the belief of excellence that;
"If someone else can do it, then so can I."
In this instance, I assume that there were certain negative thoughts and limiting beliefs going through this lady's head before, during and after her ticket battle. Proven by her words and demeanour.
"If you think you can, or you think you can't, you're probably right." - Henry Ford
Tonight I asked my son what I should blog about. He replied that he didn't know. Then he launched into a story about Growth Mindset, which they had being learning about in school, as he put the finishing touches to his play dough dinosaur creation.
I quickly grabbed a pen and paper, and this is what he taught me.
There are two types of mindsets.
1. Fixed Mindset. Give Up Gorilla has a fixed mindset. He tries a task, and, if it doesn't work, he gives up.
2. Growth Mindset. Try Again Tiger has a growth mindset. He tries a task, and, if it doesn't work, he tries and tries again until he achieves. And in doing so, he grows and learns and succeeds in life.
And so this blog was born. Thank you son. I wrote it, and then, something strange happened and the whole entire blog disappeared, completely and utterly! The only words that were left on screen was the title, glaring out at me;
TRY AGAIN TIGER!
I re-wrote the whole blog. It was different second time round interestingly.
"When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world. In one world (the world of fixed traits) success is about proving you’re smart or talented. Validating yourself. In the other (the world of changing qualities) it’s about stretching yourself to learn something new. Developing yourself." Carol Dweck
Which do you choose?
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